Sunday, December 30, 2007

More HTML Stuff

Hi all.

Again, this is only meant as a helper, its not to teach HTML.

here is the command to change font colors: (remember there is an open tag and a closing tag)

< font color="....." > the word you want colored here < /font >

in place of the dots add the color., example "red" or "blue" or "green", etc.

changing the font size is the same as well:

< font size=" add a number" > word you want larger or smaller here < / font >

Buckle your seatbelts and prepare for take off!

Forget that supposed in-depth NBC series called "African American Women: Where They Stand" What a joke! From what I clippings I saw and based on the review, it was just more negative propaganda on Black women.

Now here's some GOOD NEWS!

SheCodes has started a blog called, "Black Women Vote!" Now this is a blog that will really discuss serious issues that Black Women face. This is not with your typical doom and gloom attitude. This is more of a peppy, so-what-are-we-going-to do about it attitude. Very refreshing!

I certainly look forward to reading her posts! Shecodes: you go, girl!!!

Saturday, December 29, 2007

C-1 has got it goin ON!!

I just have to say how proud I am to C -1. The host of the blog White Men who Prefer Black Women. Firstly, because he knows who he is and what he likes. People try to ask him why. How can you answer why you like ice cream? coffee? You just do! Then, folks try to put in his head all the very same stereotype way of thinking that is detrimental for BF. But he's not havin any of it! Here's my note to C-1:

C -1,

I am literally awed! I want to just gush and gush. I am soo soo way proud of you. You are such a marriage prize!!!!! That last post, I nearly fell backwards off my chair in shear happiness!

I am so glad. GLAD, I tell ya, that you are not buying all that skin color mumbo jumbo. Whew weeeee! I can't describe it. If I could tap dance virtually, I would. And why are these folks trying to "teach" you to adopt the very system they are sulking about.

Good Lawdy, lawd haf mercy! You take care of yourself, C-1. Cuz you just good! but I mean good. LOLOL

I am very happy. CAn you tell. LOLOL

Friday, December 28, 2007

Thursday, December 27, 2007

Quotable Quotes

"who I am becoming is more important than anything that I accomplish."

Shecodes (from WAOD and Black Women Vote)

Thursday, December 20, 2007

Everybody wants some

Mother in law is here visiting, so I'll be out for a while. Enjoy everyone!

A Short Story; Taking stock

Mrs. Almoni lived her life as best she could. At every chance she did acts of kindness. Helped brides, visited the sick, raised her children with patience. Then one day, she passed away.

Mrs. Almoni arrived at the pearly gates and was ushered in. The big book of life was opened and an angel was reading all her merits. "Hmmmm," he said,"you've done quite well for yourself! Your acts of kindness and your smiles caused others to do acts of kindness and to spread a smile and a friendly word!"

"Mrs. Almoni," he continued, "why are you wrything your hands? Why do you look so worried?"

Mrs. Almoni replied, "but I didn't finish doing the dishes....and the laundry is still on the line..."

Wednesday, December 19, 2007

Another Word on Mammies

The following is a comment posted on Halima's blog. Halima posed the question: How to NOT be a mammy.

Some mammy traits might be ingrained personality traits. Something folks can't change.

I was wondering if maybe re-channeling is a way out.

for example: This loyalty to the BM no matter how damaged the BM is.

Perhaps some can't help but to be loyal. And i'd wager that the mammy type will for sure look for the "underdog" (read: DBRbm) to be loyal to.

Mammies: I'd say embrace your loyalty trait. Its a beautiful one. But re-channel it to the real long term future for your daughters. Loyalty to your daughters future.

Having been a mammy extraodinaire, I think it is too difficult for a mammy to think of their own welfare- for a prolonged period of time. I don't think any other personality trait can understand this (Just like I can't understand how some people can be so cerebral and not cry at sad movies, or other personalities can be so sensitive and take everything so personal, Or even yet another can be so success oriented that they can deal with vile people just for the sake of a goal, etc). So I say, do it for your future /and present daughters. Lead by example.

Mammies also tend to give. A lot. That too is a great trait. I'd almost call it a NEED. However, as its taught over here:

One who gives overly much becomes a prostitute!

An 'easy woman' is someone on the extreme side of the "giving" line.

That, too, can- nay MUST, be channeled better. Again if the long term future of our daughters is the focus, I think that will help to channel the need to give in a more productive manner.


And lastly, another good mammy trait is her spirituality. I think this explains why she doesn't mind -and even enjoys- wearing those African garbs (some of them anyway) or other garbs that takes away from the sleazy sexual look, etc.

For that, I say: KNOW that God made you woman. A beautiful black woman. No matter what you see when you look in the mirror (ugly? not perfect? too dark? too big of a nose? whatever!) In reality, you are beautiful! And tailor made for that loving, giving guy!

Don't snuff out your beauty. Put it out for your potential husband and father of your children. I don't mean dress scantily -I can't advise someone to do something that I don't do.

But realize, even your man has an evil inclination (i.e. ego, jealousy, etc.,). You have the ability as a wife/girl friend not just to appeal to his good inclination. You want to capture that "evil" as well. Yes. You have the power to capture both!

You want the whole man, don'tcha?

(I just want to use a more appropriate word. when I say "you want to capture that "evil" as well -I mean to say that "impulsive side of the man")

Tuesday, December 18, 2007

Beating the Negative Thoughts

An Old Story...(details adapted by moi)

There was an old Torah scholar who always woke up before the sunrise to go and purify himself at the bathhouse and then learn from his books.

One morning before the sun arose, about the time when the old scholar was set to arise, *POOF!* the bad angel appeared (y'all know who that is). He was looking sharp in his suit and began to speak very convincingly and eloquently to the old sage.

"Behold! you have been doing this for so many years. Your wisdom surpasses most and you are teacher to hundreds! Surely, you deserve a break sometimes. Relax. Stay in bed for just a few more hours. Its okay!"

The old man thought about this for a moment. Then replied, "But I see you are still getting up early. Even earlier than I!" and with that, he got out of bed!

Monday, December 17, 2007

More great blogs!

Acting White
I specifically like THIS post. :0)

Beautiful Black Women, Happily Interracially Married
Can't help it. I love the title!!! Makes me smile everytime!

Lots of positive videos. Sistahs let's make ourselves HAPPY! Make our own media.

more to come....

Sunday, December 16, 2007

Comic Relief: Ebonics and the Bible

Hey dear readers! I just need to take a breather. I took a peek at Gina's WAOD's blog to read about such a sad story of yet another young, full of potential, black girl being violated and done away with.

I can't handle it. So, I have to post some silly light comic relief...

There are some parts of the Humash (Old testament Bible) that I just could not understand until I applied Ebonics to it.

One such part is :

"Yeshurun grew fat and kicked."

from (Devarim /Deuteronomy)

Yes, my teachers told me it meant Yeshurun became lazy in terms of serving God and did not strengthen himself to do His will, but became rebellious. But still, I wanted to not just understand, but to have the capability to understand why they saw that in that phrase. It took many months.

Until, one day just for playing, I read it with Ebonics in mind....

"Kickin it" I know that! That is like relaxing. okay I get it..

Yeshurun grew fat and was kickin' it!

Another interesting saying is "True dat!"

When someone says something that is so true, the listener says, "True dat!" as in, that is true. But in Hebrew, "da'at" means "knowledge". so it sort of makes sense!

LOL Some funny stuff.

Wednesday, December 12, 2007

Step by Step

Questions are being asked day in and day out: why are BW /BC not organized enough to use what they've got to get what they want?

I think this question has been asked in various forms by different people. Gina asked this today on her blog, What About Our Daughters.

I think one of the commentators hit it right on. Leadership. There is a great lack of good leadership and why is that? What can be done about it?

Why is there such a lack of leadership?

There is a group who loved their best and brightest of children. They 'loved' them so much, that they'd sacrifice them to their god by burning them! Needless to say, it was not a very smart bunch of people...can you guess why?

Not as exaggerated as the above situation, within the black community, those who arose with potential leadership often tend to fit the "too white" mold and were rejected by many. Others, who were "down with it" were seen as too ghetto, or were actors and sportsperson whom many did not want as their 'spokespreson.'

Afterall, as i've heard over and over, we are not a monolith.

What can be done about it?

Leaders. Leaders of tens, leaders of hundreds, leaders of thousands. Can we list what our ultimate goals are? health issues, justice, education, political weight. Can we then realize that at different levels of our non-monolith BC, those same needs are their but at different stages. Without condescension, can we help each level to attain their health, justice, education and political goals? Can we understand that maybe at one level, the leader does have to be hand snapping, fast talking attitude holding hipster and at another level a literary giant with a PhD can do better.

Whatever the case may be, if we have unity, confidence in each other, and love for self I think it can be achieved. Unity in knowing that even though there are other goals to be attained, we all agree to focus on a certain few goals. Confidence in each other in that if we see one is attacked, we support them and let them fly again. and love for self so that when a new leader arise -just because she looks like- we aren't hating on her!

A Word

Some interesting words a la Attorney Mom style regarding God's eternal and close love: it goes something like this: God created man by breathing life into his nostrils. Man could have then exhaled and that would be the end of his short existence. Why didn't that happen?

Because The Ever-Merciful and Almighty is STILL breathing...

Sunday, December 9, 2007

African America vs Caribean vs African:Showdown

Showdown at the black OKay coral? lol! Nothing doing!

I think the whole premise may be WRONG.

There are many great things to be grateful for by each group. Africans have avoided a lot of the psychological oppression going on in America. African Americans are benefiting from being in a country rich in accessible resource and a stable superpower, Caribbeans are enjoying independence and self defining in a new land.

These things are there. All groups fight every day to keep and enhance their resources. If anything we should all be humbled with gratitude for where we are and make the best of it.

The minute pride sets its foot into the conversation, Godliness is gone. The arrogant and God can not dwell in the same place. And once that is gone, all H*** breaks loose ! lol And that's probably why a decent conversation about this topic can never be had.

Putting pride aside, does not mean having a broken and bent back and accepting nothing. True humility means realizing the faults that one has, but also KNOWING and understanding well the assets that one has!

Thus if this conversation must ever if ever be had, let us approach it with humility and a will to uplift the other one.

A short story...
There was once a man who had a family. He also had a farm and would gather wheat during the time of harvest, for his family. This man had a brother who was single. The brother also had a farm --a small one-- which he worked and harvested wheat as well.

One day, during harvest time, the man gathered his grains. Thinking about his brother he thought, perhaps the brother should have some extra grain. After all, he's all alone and could maybe use the money to buy better clothes, find a wife, etc etc. And so he decided that night to sneak some of his grains into the brother's lot.

Meanwhile, the brother, who had gathered his grain, thought about the man. He wondered, "but how can he feed his family with so little grain? Behold, I am alone and can do with little!" And with that, he decided that night to sneak some of his grains into his brother's lot.

Night. As each one tarried and carried their sacks of grain up the hill, they both met each other at the top of the hill. Realizing with the other had intended, they fell into each others arm, hugging in tears!

Jewish lore has it that this is where the Holy Temple was built. My friends, maybe an African has something, a Caribbean has something else, and an African American yet another thing. Let's us care for one another enough to forget about pride. Let us also build a "Holy Temple" with our love.

Saturday, December 8, 2007

Quotable Quotes

"A person can be known through his cup, his purse and his anger --and also through his humor"


Wednesday, December 5, 2007

New blogs on the block

Here are some new blogs out:

Dunbar Village 2008

This blog is with the purpose of keeping track of the progress at Dunbar Village. Also, for helping things move along.

Tradition of Excellence!

This blog celebrates the good news in the Black Community.

And also:

Black /African /Woman

From and about a student from the continent of Africa trying to make sense of this crazy crazy world.

Monday, December 3, 2007

Actors, Clowns, and Nerdy Black Women

Someone once posed the question: Why do we have actors and comedians for spokepersons? Other countries had Aristotle, philosophers, etc.

I wondered about that too. The only thing I can think of is this: Our mainstream media 'greats' are sportspeople, actors, and comedians. They are the one who stand out to the world in the general public "representing" the black community.

Also, usually the well educated ones don't usually speak in the same way that many BP do. You won't find an educator, a lawyer, etc speaking with words like 'crunk' 'whadup doe?' 'know what am sayin?' etc. The ones who really mastered this type of talking are the actors and the comedians.

This kind of reminds me of two things.

I know that Creole is a funny language. Its with a lot of imagery and otomatopias and sure made me laugh to hear it. To hear someone called "pied atais" (barefeet on the ground), and one doesn't get overwhelmed with something one gets 'jus au dent!' up to the teeth! A crippled person is a 'kokobe' etc. Its lots of imagery and allegory way of speaking. One can say its like poetry, music or some form of art.

But its not the sound of some intellectual analysis. The intellectuals from the Creole speaking world would probably be found speaking French instead. A more analytical language maybe?

The other thing this reminds me of is Moses and Joshua. Moses was a great leader for his people. With the help of God, he single handedly led a people out of bondage out from a whole other country! He then led them through the dessert and onto Mount Sinai. But the people were nervous and timid around him. He seemed to them ....too great. They prefered Joshua who was "one of theirs" (i.e. who probably knew how to talk 'their language')

And I think these two scenarios are at play in the African American world. The Actors and Comedians can speak the people's tongue and people can feel at ease. Ah, I remember one lawyer who also did the same, "if the glove doesn't fit, you must acquit!" Remember that one?

Whereas the intellectuals among them, perhaps because they needed a "dryer" language of analysis in order to organize, analyse, interface between the BC and the general populace, and protest things, had to resort to a different way of speaking -and perhaps THAT has alienated folks.

So, what to do? What's the solution. Well, me being a religious person, I say look to the Bible! When Moses was ruling, upon the advise of his Father in Law, Yethro, made leaders of 10, leaders of a hundred, and leaders of thousand. Each one fit for his group.

Well, I put that on the side. Until something happens what of the 'nerdy black woman'? Those among the 'mass' but who don't speak ebonics or the like? Are they doomed never to have their leader of hundred? Are they outcasted until its officially recognized (by the NAACP?) that its okay to be like us? lol. don't know. Just mild ranting.

Sunday, December 2, 2007

Stories from the Talmud

Sometimes I enjoy learning stories from Jewish sources. Here is one of my favorite ones. (details are adapted my me!)

Alexander the Great was famous for his military might. When countries heard he was approaching, they would all but tremble with fright!

One day, Alexander the Great had set out to conquer a small village in Africa run by women. Word got out. The Nubian leaders gathered their skirt in their hand, and with their head scarves flaying in the wind, bolted towards the queen. A quick meeting needed to be done!

In quick hushed voice they spoke in their native African tongue. What should they do? How can they ever defeat the Great Alexander. Slowly slowly a plan was devised.

The day came. Alexander the Great and all his military might approached.

They came and towered over the entrance of the village. Lo and behold! Without weapons, the women came out. One by one, led by the queen in all her regality. It was a quiet but noble and beautiful procession. Drums played suspensfully in the background and no one spoke a word, save the the excited wind blowing around them.

Finally, the queen spoke.

"I salute you, the great and mighty Alexander. You are well known for your fierceness in battle and for your great victories."

Everyone listened intently.

"We women have protected and defended our village alone. And we have been successful! Now, if you should come and attack us and win, what would it be said? The great Warrior fought with women and won?! What kind of victory would that be?"

The Queen paused to let the idea sink in.  Then she continued, "Now supposing WE WON? What would be said then?"

With a faint smile, Alexander the Great, conceded, "You are wise. I will not conquer your land. Now fetch some bread for me and my men and we will be off!"

The queen bowed graciously and returned with her whole procession back into their village. As soon as they were out of sight, again they hurried and huddled to think and talk.

He needs bread? they wondered. Surely, there is a trick to this! So they, again, devised another plan.

After a few minutes, once again the whole solemn procession came out bearing bread. By then everyone had dismounted from their horses and waited for the bread. The women passed bread to everyone. However, when they bit into the bread, they realized it was hard! Each bread had inside of it gold!

"What is this!" Cried Alexander.

"Great and mighty Alexander" The queen began, unperturbed, "would you really be satisfied to come all the way over here... for a morsel of bread?"

With this, Alexander nodded and left. But before he left, he wrote on the gate of their city: "I, Alexander of Macedon, was a fool before having come to this country of women in Africa and having received their advice."

(for another story check Another Africa and Alexander Talmud story)